Tuesday, February 28, 2012

Polka Dots and Stripes

When I was pregnant with Rory we were very worried about how Willow (our cat) would handle having a baby in the house.  When we took her to the vet for her annual check up we asked what we could expect.  The vet told us that Willow will not consider the baby either human or feline.  She will not consider the baby prey or a friend.

I kind of didn't believe her.  Knowing my cat I though that she would be pouncing on the little kicking legs, jumping in the crib and hissing when the baby cries.  But the vet was right, from the time we brought Rory home Willow pretty much ignored her.  Every once in a while Willow would walk up to Rory and smell her head and then walk away.  But she never marked her and didn't really pay that much attention to her.  Rory of course didn't pay attention to Willow either.

So in the past couple weeks it has been really cool to see the two of them start to interact.  Its not much but Rory definitley sees Willow across the room and looks at her.  If we put Willow within reach, Rory will pet her fur and seems to like it.  Willow also seems to be coming around, she looks right at Rory and seems more interested in her.

Its really fun to watch them warm up to each other.  I think they are going to be great friends!  Even though Rory will be grabbing her tail and fur in no time!

Today they were both laying on their sides looking at each other and I noticed that Rory was wearing polka dots and Willow was wearing stripes.  How cute!

Monday, February 27, 2012

No More Rocking

Tim and I reached our limit Wednesday night! We decided to stop rocking Rory to bed because I think its the root of all our problems. Honestly this was a little sad for me. I love rocking Rory to bed, its great bonding time and I was resistant to give it up.

Our plan was to let her "cry it out" 10 minutes max, go in her room for less then 1 minute but not pick her up then repeat until she goes to sleep. I settled on this approach after speaking with our doctor and I got a good web site referral from a friend (Thank you Amy Weiss) http://www.babysleepsite.com/. 

There was a quote on the site that made me both laugh and cry, and pushed me to finally try this... 

"What kind of routine do you do before you go to sleep each night? Do you
watch TV? Talk to your partner? Do you read a book? Do you sleep on a pillow?
These are the types of things you associate with going to sleep each night. What
would happen if your power was out and you couldn't watch the news or read your
book? Would you have trouble falling asleep? Maybe. Maybe not. Would you have
trouble going to sleep without your pillow? That might be more likely to give you
trouble. Some sleep associations are stronger than others. What if you went to
sleep with your pillow and covers and 2 hours later woke up and they were gone?
Would you be able to go back to sleep without looking for the pillow? Now let's look
at how this concept might affect your baby. "

...because honestly sometimes I do wake up up in the middle of the night looking for my pillow or blankey and get very upset when I can't find them! (And even more upset when I find Tim has them). 

Here's how it worked (sorry this is going to be really boring for some of you, but I want to remember this for next time and share with anyone who might have to go through this):

Night 1 of "Cry it Out" - I put Rory down at 7:30 and set the stopwatch. After 10 minutes I started walking in her room and she literally stopped crying just before I got to the door. She woke at 10:30 & 2:30 (gave a bottle) and put herself back to sleep after less then 10 minutes. Then she woke at 5:45 for the day. I feel better today then I have in weeks!

Night 2 of CIO - I put Rory down at 7:50 and she full out cried for 8 minutes then wimpered for 2 and then was fast asleep! She woke up around 9:00 but went right back to sleep. Then slept till 3:30!!! I gave her a bottle but after that she took 16 minutes to fall back asleep. Then she slept till 6:45. Who ever would have thought I would be so excited to sleep until 6:45.

Night 3 of CIO - I put Rory down at 8:15, she talked for 5 minutes, cried for 8, then talked again for 5 minutes and fell asleep. She was up at 4:00, ate and went right back to sleep!

Night 4 of CIO - I put Rory down about 8:00, she cried for 10 minutes. I went in and turned on her lady bug because it just seemed to dark in there. She cried for another 4 and went to sleep. She woke up at 10:30 and Tim went it and she went right back to sleep. She woke up at 4:00 and I fed her and she then slept till 6:45.

Seems like a much better pattern is evolving! Overall Rory is sleeping better, I am sleeping better, Tim is sleeping better and everyone is happier - even Willow. I am so glad that I decided to do this. I really was skeptical on whether or not it would work and on if we would cause some abandonment issues for Rory but she has taken it like a rock star!

Saturday, February 25, 2012

Date Day

Tim and I had tickets to the matinee of American Idiot today!  We got one of Rory's teachers Miss Colleen to come babysit.  It was a little weird at first, its so rare that the two of us are alone anymore.  but we quickly were able to appreciate a day away.

Crab BLT at Salut
The show was so good!  The music comes back to you right away.  Brings me back to 8th grade, brings Tim back to college.  Its a quick show, everything happens quickly and its over before you know it.  The story is great, but the best thing about it is definitely the choreography.

We then went to Salut for an early dinner.  Its one of my favorite places in the area.  We had our favorite appetizer Mussels.
Then we stopped at Cold Stone on the way home and treated ourselves to ice cream!

It was fun to have a date day!  But I must admit that in retrospect I don't think I would buy tickets to a matinee again.  I'd rather spend the day with Rory and miss when she is sleeping then miss fun awake time.  Afterall, I only get to spend 2 full days a week with her.

Friday, February 24, 2012

I Cut Off Your Thumb!

Keeping up with a babies fingernails is really hard.  They grow so fast and if you don't keep them cut they will cut you and cut themselves.  One of the weirdest things by the way is when a baby if just a few hours old and they already have fingernails that need to be cut. 

When she was first born I would file them and it was pretty easy, but as she got older they started growing faster and those little arms started moving around more so it got harder and harder.

One of my friends told me to just "bite them".  I thought ewww, how gross, I am not doing that!  Well low and behold 2 weeks later Judgy McJudgeJudge is biting her fingernails.  Yes, gross I know.  But its so much easier then cutting them!  I mean its really not that different then biting your own nails right?

On Wednesday Rory's nails were out of control.  I think she's a little old for me to continue to bite them so I brought out the baby nail clipper.  I started with her thumb, held it real still.  And cut her skin.  It immediatly started bleeding.  She did her silent scream which was reserved for getting shots up until now.  I immediately started balling too. It was bleeding, she was screaming and crying and I was crying and trying to calm her down. Once I realized that I did not cut off her thumb, I was thinking that I probably scared her for life and she would for sure lose all feeling in her thumb and it would be all my fault. 

We got a hold of ourselves a few minutes later and turns out its just a little cut and she is going to be ok, but I think I am going to go back to filing her nails.  I am way too dangerous with a nail clipper!

This was like 15 minutes after the incident. 
I swear it was worse then it looks here.

Thursday, February 23, 2012

This is my first post...

If you read Erica's "Up All Night" post; you know it has been crazy tough to get a full night's sleep in this house.... last night is probably the worst for me based on impact today; I'm so tired I can't even concentrate at work or not yawn during in person meetings, which is bad when I have people who traveled over an ocean to spend time with me.

I'm so tired, honestly I fa

Wednesday, February 22, 2012

The Cat in the Hat and Rory

I have been wanting to compare these photos side by side for some time now, so this was really fun to see!  It will be even more fun when I can do this with 10 photos!  I must admit she hasn't changed that much in the last 4 months though.  She has gotten bigger but her face looks the same.

Up All Night (Not the TV Show)

Rory all swaddled up
When Rory was 2 months old she started sleeping through the night.  She would go to bed aroun 9pm and sleep straight through till around 5am.  Maybe once a week she would wake up one time in that stretch and I would feed her and she would go right back to bed.  Here's a picture of Rory from when she was a good sleeper - this was NYE, I think it was one of the last nights she slept straight through.

Rory taking a nap on my lap
Boy have things changed.  Since she was about 4 months old she has been up 2 to 4 times a nights.  There are so many changes going on in her life that I really don't know what is causing her to be up all night.  It could be the cereal, the carrots, that she is no longer swaddled, her stuffy nose.  Too may naps, not enough naps. Now we are slowly switching her to formula so that could be part of it.  Or I have heard that 4 months is when babies start to have separation anxiety, so she could just want to be with us all night.  Who knows.

Her most recent trend is to be up at about 1:30 and 4:45.  Which isn't too bad.  The problem is that after feeding her, when I am up rocking her back to bed, I fall asleep in her rocker with her.  Then I wake up an hour later and try to put her down and she wakes up.  This is what happened last night and it made it a tough night for both Rory and I.

I need to do some research on sleep training because as soon as she turns 6 months Tim and I are going to slowly start to back off on the rocking to bed and comforting in the middle of the night.  I don't think we are going to "let her cry it out", but we can certainly draw a harder line then we do now - which is no line at all.  More changes for Rory to come.

Tuesday, February 21, 2012

Grocery Shopping has Never Been so Fun!

Rory and I went to Byerly’s yesterday after school/work.  I was hoping that they would have one of those carts that has the built in infant seat in it.  We have used those at Target and Lakewinds and they work great!  We have a convertible car seat in our car now so I no longer have the luxury of carrying her in her car seat.  Also, Rory isn’t quite sitting up on her own yet so that makes it a little more complicated.  So we tried the grocery cart for the first time.  She slumped to the side so I packed my jacket and purse around her and she did great! 

She looked at me and smiled and laughed the whole time.  She loved being able to look around the store and at all the people.  It was like a whole new perspective on grocery shopping for her.  She held on to the little metal bar in front of her, it was so cute.

The entire time I talked to her and danced and made goofy faces to keep her entertained.  People must have thought I was nuts, but a fun Mom.  We did have a few people that stopped and said Hi and asked how old she was.  The best was the guy at the meat counter, he asked her name and when I told him it was Rory he responded “An Irish girl, I love a good Irish name”.  I didn’t have the heart to tell him she is like 1/16 Irish.

We had such a fun time together!  Rory has turned yet another everyday task into something fun!  Babies really do make you look at everything differently!

Monday, February 20, 2012

First 24 Hours Away

This weekend was my first trip away from Rory.  It’s crazy to think that I have spent every day and night with her for over 5 months.  Since the trip was only for 24 hours I was really not that worried about leaving her alone with daddy or missing her too much.  I was more excited to see my Loni, Amy and Nikki and have a nice night out.

It ended up being a really great trip.  Exactly what I needed.  I was able to relax and have a good time. 

I never cried or was really that upset about being away from Rory.  I think its probably because I had a few updates from Tim, a couple of photos and I knew that he could handle it.  On the way home my flight was delayed 1 hour and I started getting a little anxious to get home and see the Rors though.  When I walked in the door Tim was holding Rory waiting for me in our entryway.

One of the Photos Tim sent me
I am going to California in 3 weeks for 5 days and that is going to be a whole other ball game.  That’s a long time to be away from her and I actually am a little sad thinking about it.

To make matters worse, when I got home I asked Tim how he felt about being with Rory alone for 4 days now that he did it for one – he said he felt very different now and wishes he had some help.  Not the words I want to hear! 

I am sure I will be sad – although I’m not really a crier so I doubt I’ll be a puddle like everyone thinks.  I will more likely just be anxious for the weekend to end and be very distracted.  Hopefully I can still enjoy myself and be in the moment as much as possible!

Wednesday, February 15, 2012

Every Kid Should Have a Pair or Overalls

When I was pregnant I didn't buy a lot of clothes for Rory.   We were given so many cute things that there was really no reason to.  But one thing I had to get her was a pair of OshKosh overalls.  I just feel like every baby - boy and girl should have overalls.  They are a staple.

When I bought them I remember thinking that it was so far away that she would wear them, they are 3-6 month size.  Well, today was the day.  They fit her!  Well, to be fair they are still pretty big, but still I can't beleive it!

Tuesday, February 7, 2012

We Have a lot of Catching Up to do

I am not sure what I want this blog to be yet but I know that I want to remember everything.  I want to remember what its like to be a new mom.  I want to remember Rory’s firsts and her smiles and how exciting and fun each day is.  

But so much has happened already and I am just getting started so hopefully I can capture the last 4 and a half months somewhere along the line.

Let’s start at the very beginning because Tim and I never did write out our “Birth Story” and I want to put it down somewhere so that we remember it.

My due date was October 7th but I went to my 35 week appointment and Dr. Johnson seemed pretty sure I was going to go early.  I was 100% effaced and 2cm dilated already!

On Monday Sept 12th I started getting pretty bad back pain.  We wondered if they were contractions but we just weren’t sure.  They were so irregular and they were all in my back.  We went out for Mexican food that night and I complained the entire time.  I just kind of worked through it though and went on with my meal.

On Tuesday I woke up feeling ok and went into work.  By about 11am I couldn’t handle it anymore and I had to leave.  I went home and soaked in the bath, slept and soaked in the bath some more.  That evening we timed the pain (still wasn’t sure if they were contractions) and it was still really irregular.  I could go 30 minutes or 4 minutes in between the heightened pain in my back – and even in between the pain it hurt.  I leaned my back against a football most of the night and that made me feel better – they don’t teach you that in birthing class!

I took another hot bath late that night and actually felt a lot better.  I slept through the night, a full 8 hours.  I woke up feeling no pain and logged into work.  By about 9am the pain came back but it was tolerable so I kept working.  We had a 4pm shower at Tim’s work and his co-workers really went all out so I didn’t want to miss it!   I finished up work and we drove to Minnetonka.  I was now hurting a bit more and was starting to really believe I was actually having contractions.

Tim left me in his Ops room while he had a meeting.  Now I was certain I was in labor.  I paced back and forth, I leaned on the desk.  I was definitely in a lot of pain.  I was so nervous someone was going to walk in and think I was crazy but no one did.  I figured we could make it through the shower and then we would assess if we should go to the hospital.

I am sure it was a great shower!  I remember flowers and balloons and cake – but mostly I remember trying not to bolt out of there I was in so much pain.  I kept randomly standing.  In retrospect it was stupid to hide my pain, but I didn’t want people to think I was in labor if I wasn’t and I was just not 100% convinced yet.

I went to the bathroom during the shower and had just a tiny bit of blood – I was so excited, now I had an excuse to go call the doctor and go to the hospital.

We finished up the shower and called the doctor in the car on the way home.  They said to come on in to the hospital.

When we got there at about 7pm, they put us in a little room so they could check if I was in active labor.  It felt like forever till they got to me but I am guessing it was probably only 30 minutes or so.  I was 4cm dilated and in active labor!  Yay we were going to meet Rory today.  

That feeling of when they tell you are in labor is just indescribable.  Even though I had been pregnant for 36+ weeks I still didn’t believe it.  

So they quickly brought us to the L&D room and we met our nurse Nancy.  They asked if I wanted pain medicine and I was all over it.  I wanted the epidural ASAP!  I was so sick of the back pain.

They have to give you a full bag of fluid before they can give you the epidural so that took another 30 minutes.  The anesethioligist got there probably about 8pm.  He was great, he walked me through everything.  He told me exactly what I should be feeling and when.  You have some weird sensations as they are giving you the meds so I was glad he did this.

The next part is a blur.  The epidural kicked in quickly and I was feeling pretty good from about 9 to 10, then I started feeling the back pain again.  They checked me and I was at a 7, then checked again about 30 minutes later and I was at a 9.

Although Nurse Nancy had written up all of Rory’s paperwork for 9/15/11 and we had already googled famous people born on 9/15/11 – Rory had another plan.  She was going to try to beat the clock and come on 9/14.

First Photo of Rory
I started pushing at maybe around 11:15, the doctor got there around 11:30 and Rory Samara Husted was born at 11:45.  She was 6lbs 8oz and 19 inches long. 

She was 3 weeks, 1 day and 15 minutes early!

Rory was born with one hand by her ear and started crying before she was even fully born.  I was so glad, I was nervous for that moment between when she was born and when she started crying.  

They place her on my chest and I was just in awe.  How could this little human being have just been inside me?  (I look at her all the time now and still wonder this).  I think I said something like “What do I do now?”   They wisked her away to get a bunch of tests done.  The tests took a little while because they had a hard time getting her blood oxygen to work right – but in the end she was a healthy baby!

The next couple days are a blur, maybe I’ll give more info on the time in the hospital in a later blog.  All in all I think I had it pretty easy.  I did most of my laboring at home from Monday to Wednesday and the hospital part was rather quick.  There were only about 3 minutes in there that were just awful.  Tim said during this time I was mean to everyone in the room, but of course I don’t remember this. 

So there it is Rory’s birth story!  Now I feel like I can start blogging all about her!

Monday, February 6, 2012

A New Facial Expression

This weekend Rory started making a new facial expression.  She tucks her bottom lip under her top lip.  I have no idea where she got it from but boy is it cute.  This picture captures it a little bit but doesn't quite do the expression justice.

She is also talking up a storm lately.  At her 4 month appointment a few weeks ago, Dr. Shaffer asked us if she was babbling and I came to realize that she wasn't talking nearly as much as some babies her age.  Well, she is making up for it now.  She is cooing and yelling and making all sorts of fun noises.  She even purses her lips and tries to imitate our zoobas.  She laughs at herself when she does this!

Its just amazing to see her develop into this little person and to see her personality come out more and more everyday.  She laughs at everything and has such a fun personality!